Sources of Sport Confidence Model Reflections
Vealey's model of sport-confidence provides the following list, in no specific order, of forces or sources that impact an athlete's self-confidence:
Mastery
Demonstration of ability
Social support
Physical/mental preparation
Physical self-perception
Vicarious experience
Coach’s leadership
Environmental comfort
Situational favorableness
Winter Solstice!
Winter is here! This solstice marks the beginning of what is known as astronomical winter, not meteorological winter. And maybe it marks the beginning of something else. What if it was to mark the beginning of a time of wonder and magic?
The Nature of Fear
When we can understand the signs of fear, we can then befriend our fear, thank it, and then invite courage and self-compassion to the party so that we can act from that place instead of the fearful place.
The Sting and Learning Lessons of Rejection
Let’s face it, rejection hurts and stings! It is something that many would prefer to go without. There are so many facets when talking about rejection because it is such a complex topic.
Doing the Best You Can!
Perfectionism is a myth, and yet many of us strive for it in our personal lives, professional lives, and, if we are in a leadership position, it may even show up in our expectations of others. We can strive for perfectionism implicitly or explicitly and sometimes the implicit striving can be the most difficult to find compassion for and reflect on.
Priorities - Where We Place Things
How do we decide where we place our priorities? Take a minute and think about that before reading further. Consider taking some notes, drawing, or doing anything else that helps.
Mental Blocks
The mental block is there for a reason. It is telling us something that we need to pay attention to. Oftentimes we spend energy fighting the mental block, give up, or skip the opportunity to explore why it exists.
Talking About Difficult Topics
Talking about difficult topics is not easy, as we all know, nor is it high on our lists of something we love to do. It’s why we call them ‘difficult’. And yet, difficult conversations have to happen for the benefit of ourselves, others, culture, and society.
Action versus Reaction
Our bodies are naturally made for both action and reaction. But what is the difference, and why do we need both? Why might we want to be mindful of how we use both?
The Masks We Wear
The masks we wear.
The faces we present to the world.
We all wear masks or have faces that we present.
Patience Shows Up in Many Situations
And It seems that patience continues to be essential and emphasized as we transition into adulthood. Why? Has anyone really asked the question about ‘why’? We are not talking about the surficial ‘why’ of because we spend so much time waiting in many aspects of life. This ‘why’ is more focused on how patience benefits us beyond the surface reasons. The surface reasons being that we wait in line, wait for food to cook, etc.
Resilience - A Birth Right!
Why venture into an image such as the ball bouncing? Because resilience is like that bouncing ball. It happens naturally in our bodies, minds, and spirit. It is an innate part of being human.
We Don’t Always Know Our Impact
Everyone makes an impact in this world! It is true. Here are the pieces that we don’t always think about - the impacts that we make that we don’t see or don’t even know about.
Fall Transitions
On the 22nd of this month, the September equinox marked the beginning of fall in the Northern Hemisphere. Different cultures worldwide have different ways of honoring and celebrating the changing of the seasons. We will explore a few of them and their traditions in the hopes of drawing on them to inspire our own imaginations about what fall traditions can be in our own lives.
In Honor of World Alzheimer’s Day
There are memories that we love to call up because they remind us of the good times and the people we care about. Then there are memories that we would rather forget because they may be traumatizing. Additionally, some memories may not elicit much feeling or reaction but exist because they touched us in some other way. While maybe not all our memories are pleasant, they exist because our bodies were designed to allow us to remember. Remembering is a gift that we often take for granted because memory formation happens so “easily.”
Know and Acknowledge Your Value
We are all born with unique gifts that only we can bring to this world. It’s true! What one person brings to this world, another person cannot
Stop Apologizing
Stop apologizing. Yes, that is correct. Stop apologizing. How often do we hear those words? Probably, not often. Now that everyone is taken off guard, it is time to explain. Stop apologizing for being you! This type of apologizing has an incredibly sneaky way of showing up, and when they do, and we give into them, we chip away at our belief in ourselves.
Success and Failure: What is Your View?
For most people, success and failure conjure up some pretty specific images of what each is to them. Chances are these images have many influences on how they were created over time. Family may have helped craft these definitions and images. Culture and society may have some strong influence. Life experiences may also have something to say. And this list could continue, as there are many potential influences on how we define success and failure. Once we internalize these influences, they feel like they become part of us. Some much so that more often than not, we can’t tell what is actually ours and what we internalized from other sources.
Are You Really Listening?
What are we generally taught? We are taught that listening is taking in what someone else says to us.
What if You Had___?
Today is going to look a little different. Today we are going to explore some questions in hopes of learning more about ourselves and areas that we may need to give a little tender loving care.